*casually and charmingly stalks e-crushes to see how they're doing*
So I was thinking about deleting this comment b/c a lot of folks don't like, but I decided against it because I think it will help folks learn.
I didn't realize that it was a trigger for a lot of folks, so that's on me. It was not my intent to contribute to or normalize a toxic culture.
Fortunately, I have am followed by some cool people who've taken the time to show me the error without being insufferable pricks about it. Thanks for that.
My bad, y'all. I meant no harm.
@Are0h TBH, I really appreciated your frankness. It has given me pause to reflect.
@sparcipx Yeah, I thought it might help. We all make mistakes, that's cool.
The big question beyond that is what culture do we want to contribute to.
And I never want to be a person that contributes to someone's harm, or makes an environment where we can't talk so we can learn.
@Are0h Your Star Wars post the other day is what really hit home. Rather than dismissing certain behaviours as coming from a "small minority that doesn't represent all of us" etc, we SHOULD be calling the behaviour out!
@sparcipx Yeah. Sometimes, you just have to let people know where you stand.
If bigots are going to be loud, they are going to have to deal with me. I'm not allowing people around me to just say whatever hateful shit comes to mind.