Kind of as a corollary: if tales of fediverse abuse or harassment just ... don't match your experience?
Yay, that's great! Mods work hard, and we communicate with each other. Locally, we have several hundred reports on file, determining what we pull from remote instances and allow here. Believe the experiences of others.
There's nothing *inherently* nice about fedi. Shared values and work *and the use of mod tools* (or not) shape an instance's character.